How to know if you are in the river

  Are you in the river?

   You complain 

 You deep down feel dissatisfied with your life 

You love being right

You feel like an imposter or fraud

You regret the past (and probably fear the future)

 You wish you were more confident - hence you live life according to other peoples’ agendas and priorities rather than your own 

You compare up not down

You actively, though unconsciously, engage in drama – by blaming others, the economy, the weather; by gossiping; by insisting on having way too much control; arguing over small petit things 

 You have a history of self-sabotage 

 You eat crap food  

 You believe failure is a crime 

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 You play the victim because you believe your life isn’t fair 

 You give a shit what other people think of you (outside of a small close number of trusted individuals) 

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 You numb your feelings with alcohol, painkillers or other drugs 

 You find small talk easy and are quick to fill gaps in conversations

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The river lets you live a fake life (even if you don’t realise it yet). It creates powerful illusions which take you further away from who you truly are.

The river offers no solutions when you feel stressed, guilty, lost, at a dead end or angry. It gives you a false safety in familiarity and a certain acceptance from everyone else who resides in the river. But the only real things on offer in the river are more stress and lots of ultimately pointless drama that wastes your precious commodity - time. 

To find out how to get out of your river email direct at info@riverbanklife.com